I had 3 baby showers and people were so generous. My family threw us a shower, my work threw us a shower, and my husbands work threw us a shower. A lot of the stuff we got, we only used once. So much money wasted.
We have a baby shower coming up for a relative. She's in her early 20's, not with the father of the baby, can't support herself and she got pregnant on purpose.
I have a really hard time not being judgmental. As you can see by the paragraph above.
Looking at her registries, I have a hard time shopping for her. Normally, I would only spend about $30 on a gift for a baby shower. Mr. R and I decided to spend a little more this time to try to get her something she really needs. But the majority of things she registered for seem so stupid to me.
Mr. R wanted to purchase a car seat off 1 of the 3 registries that this relative has set up. She has a travel system on her registry plus 2 other infant car seats all at different stores. This person doesn't even have a car. I get she'll need a car seat but not 3.
Here's what I ended up purchasing for her:
- bouncy seat from target off her registry
- large box of up & up diapers
- a large box of up & up wipes (If my kids didn't get name brand diapers, there's no way I feel obligated to purchase name brand diapers for some one else.)
- diaper cream
- teether (with a $5 off coupon code, the teether was less than a dollar).
Total was $64. If I find some good baby lotion or shampoo at Ollies, I might add a couple bottles to this if I can get a good deal.
I really wanted to purchase more from her registries but I just couldn't make myself do it. I figure there are only a few important things to have for a first time mom, especially one that doesn't have the means to support herself.
- a safe place for baby to sleep: crib or pack-n-play
- car seat
- diapers, wipes, diaper cream
- a bouncer or swing (not necessary but makes life easier)
- bottles and pump if mom will be working outside the home